Rebecca Davis

Next move

‘I came out the other side. I did it with talking and crying and being. And through it all, I felt confident that I, and we, had done right by David.’

I remember seeing my friend David crossing a busy intersection with Oliver, my 2-year-old son, in his arms. I watched as Oliver relaxed, eased into the embrace, and lay his head on David's shoulder - I watched as pure joy spread across David's face and enlivened his step.

This was a month or so before the Academy Awards, 2006. David and I dressed up for the awards, he in a tux, me in black and glitter. We drank red wine out of tiny hand-blown tumblers and laughed uproariously.

That Friday, the one after the awards and the wine, was the day when we could not buoy David's spirits, no smile crossed his lips, every memory of his was a regret, a highlighted misstep. His wife, my husband, and I could not break through the depression that was quickly engulfing David's life.

David became a regular visitor; he seemed to be calmed by the bustle of a house inhabited by a 5-year-old, a 2-year-old, a wacky stay-at-home mom (that's me), an eccentric artist, and two cats. Shortly after the Unbuoyable Friday, David asked me if he could move in with us until he could figure out his next move.

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